No Problems

   
     Just issues and challenges, or so they say.  Only in math, do we use the p word.  Or you might remember in the movie Apollo 13: "Houston, we have a problem" with not enough oxygen or electricity to complete the mission.  Now, that's a problem!
     Euphemisms are words that help soften a term that might be considered unpleasant to hear.  We are familiar with "passed away" instead of "died."  Perhaps using these softer words can change our emotions from a somewhat negative connotation to a more positive reaction.  An issue seems like a fact to consider and a challenge seems to propel us toward an outcome.
     When we get an unexpected negative reaction from someone, we often ask, "What's your problem?"   A softer word does not convey our emotion.  We are showing disapproval and want an explanation.
     Even though we are encouraged not to use the word, we know when we have a problem.  We have to recognize the seriousness, handle the emotional reaction, and plan a solution if there is one.  Some problems are not just issues and have no solution.  No matter how badly we want to accept the challenge, our solution may be just to adapt.  We can change our perspective, but the problem remains.
     You are in the minority if you have no problems.  
 
       

Essentials

 
     Everyone has limited time, energy, and money; therefore, what is essential must be determined.  Just envision those without the necessities and realize what is vital for existence: sustenance, basic clothing, and shelter.  Education, health care, and loving contact are also necessary for development.  Living in peace and safety without fear of violence is another requirement for survival.  Meeting these needs should bring a certain amount of contentment.
     When our own desires or the wants of our children exceed what is absolutely necessary,  contentment is difficult to reach, let alone happiness.  The amount of time, energy, and money spent on having more than we need lessens our ability to appreciate the basics of life.  Our self-centered pursuit of non essentials also decreases our ability to focus on the less fortunate.
     The continued question "What do you want?" is usually answered by things that go beyond our needs. Many people don't appreciate what they have and just want more and more.  Those really in need often find true happiness with a full stomach, warm clothing, and a safe place to live.  Of course, they want to be healthy and have the opportunity to learn and love.
      Many people around the world plus those in our own country and neighborhoods are in need of the essentials.  If you have what you need, help those who don't.  As you enjoy all the extras in life, keep in mind what others need and not just at the popular times of Thanksgiving and Christmas.
   

Above and Beyond

   
     Doing more than is required or expected especially to benefit others is sometimes recognized and rewarded, but other times is taken for granted or not even noticed.  Those in dangerous occupations, especially those wearing a uniform and carrying a gun, often receive thanks, praise, medals, and life-long perks.  We feel gratitude to them who risk life and limb in our stead to make us feel safe.
     The list of duties in the military is very clear, handed down from the tradition of each branch of service.  Police duties are defined by law.  Civilians, however, receive their list of duties from various sources.  Down through history, males in power decided who was to do what.  Some people believe our duties come from God, the Father and God, the Son as written in scriptures.  Our families often train us to follow a traditional list of duties.  We need to be aware of who designed our duty list.
     We need to mature and realize that we should design our own sense of duty, what we should and shouldn't do.  Some of our actions will be noticed; some will not.  We need to feel satisfaction about fulfilling our duties and also appreciate what others do to sustain and improve our lives.  Not to minimize the sacrifices of those in uniform, but those who work in peaceful pursuits deserve a gold star for going above and beyond.
 

Everyman

   
     Every human being is the same in most ways.  Philip Roth's "Everyman" doesn't give the main character a name and only refers to his relatives on a first name basis.  The character's life in most respects is our life, every person's life.
     His parents taught him their religion and way of life, but when he grew up, he made up his own mind about these issues.  His sibling was his dearest, life-long friend.  His daughter was his faithful, loving child.  When he finished his career, he had time to spend on his avocation.  Satisfaction was found in  contact with other people.  After his parents and a few close friends became ill and died, he began to have remorse over some things he had done and regret over things left undone.  "Would everything be different, he asked himself, if I'd been different and done things differently?  This is the man I have made.  This is what I did to get here."  "There is no remaking reality."
     As he began to face his own health problems and witnessed his body wearing out, he realized that old age is an unrelenting battle.  He wanted to do his best for his remaining family and friends and said, "It's best to give while your hand is still warm."
     One of his friends in the last weeks of his life stated: "If I can write this memoir, I will have told people who I am."  Philip Roth could say this about his own novels.
     I also believe this is why I write my blog.  I can show my family and friends who I am.

Band-Aids

   
     This useful product protects wounds and keeps out elements that might hinder healing, but the time comes when it is best to remove it and allow fresh air to finish the job.  An emotional bandage often has the same purpose.
     When an emotional injury or sore spot needs help to heal, we  often cover up the problem with denial, wishful thinking, or unrealistic cures.  When we become aware of difficult or unpleasant facts of  life, we often invent a way to hide from the truth.  We may need a period of time to heal the pain.  We may fear exposing ourselves to what may endanger our former thinking.  Sometimes, the band-aid stays on too long and can inhibit healing.  Sometimes, we do not allow fresh ideas to enter our thinking and prefer to live by covering up the truth.  Some band-aids stay on for a lifetime.
     Ripping off a band-aid can be painful but necessary to allow the truth to complete our healing.

   
   

Hoax

      

     

     A hoax is not just an error or mistake but a deliberately fabricated falsehood made to masquerade as the truth.  When people are too willing to believe in an appealing dream, they may become victims of a hoax.  They may be cheated of the truth.
     Those people or organizations who use deception to get your money, your favor, or your mind may perpetrate a hoax.  Many products and services are advertised with false claims.  Politicians may say anything to benefit themselves, besmirch their opponents, and get your vote.  The worst hoax is when your mind gets locked into illogical explanations of the past and unrealistic promises of the future.
     Even well-meaning, sincere individuals may continue their belief in a hoax.  Perhaps they don't want to give up their dream, or perhaps they fear even questioning the falsehood.  Don't be part of a masquerade.  When something seems too good or too bad to be true, beware.

Criticism

   
     At best, criticism can evaluate, judge both good and bad aspects, and suggest improvements to individuals, groups, creative works, and philosophies.  To be valid, the critic should have relevant knowledge of the subject.  At worst, criticism can be insulting and destructive.
     Before we begin to criticize, we need to understand the standards we believe in, what we think is correct or acceptable.  When something or someone is below these standards, we see a problem and perhaps envision a solution.
     When we are being criticized, we need to understand the motive behind it.  Perhaps it is unfounded, mistaken, mean-spirited, and hurtful.  Perhaps it is justified, coming from the best intentions to correct a shortcoming or improve a situation.  We need to be strong enough to handle constructive criticism.
     We also need to be our own critic, to be aware of what needs improvement, while maintaining a healthy self-esteem.  We may need help in correcting our blind spots.
     Some criticism can be revolutionary when long-held personal ideas or the status quo of a society is questioned then changed to a new perspective.  Sometimes, revolutionaries are considered troublemakers.  Other times, their ideas become accepted into the mainstream.
     Criticism is just another opinion. 
      
      
     

Allow Doubt

     No matter what you believe or what others want you to believe (supposedly for your own good) allow doubt to have it's due.  This may clarify or change your thinking (perhaps for you own good.)
     Doubt allows you to go beyond preconceived opinions, investigate other opinions, and obtain a broader perspective.  You can see things two or more ways, change your mind, or go back to your original opinion.
     Doubt may put you into of state of confusion by not having a defined opinion.  Discomfort may arise after being so comfortable in long-held opinions.  If you choose comfort over truth, you may float in a sea of illusion and drown in false ideas.  Being uncomfortable may be unpleasant but allows you to wake up to the truth.
     Practice doubt as a way to improve your thinking.

Bubble

      Living inside a self-imposed bubble may provide a sense of protection and comfort.  We may perceive danger outside, so the stronger we make the wall, the safer we will feel.
     Our bubble may consist of layers of insulation created by our parents, by our opinions, and by our emotions.  Sometimes the wall becomes so think, we can't see out.  We seal ourselves inside  to provide an environment for the life we want.
     Without any input from outside, the inside can become stale, imagination may be stifled, and the view of reality can get distorted.  As we influence others to reside in our bubble, we may feel safety in numbers.
     No matter how much we wish to protect ourselves from perceived dangers, other ideas and events invade our comfort zone and force us to realize that our "facts" are just our opinions.  Shock and disillusionment may follow as the bubble pops.  You will survive and perhaps gain a clearer view of reality. 

Interruptions

      Busy with an activity or trying to make a point in a conversation, then something or someone causes a temporary halt.  Irritation may arise, but perhaps the interruption may be necessary or beneficial.  You may be neglecting an equally important happening or idea from someone else.
     We are taught not to interrupt until the other person is "finished," that we should take turns at appropriate times.  Formal debates are supposed to go by the rules, but often the moderator cannot control the situation or the participants are just rude.
     When something becomes dangerous, we appreciate a warning.  When someone interrupts our train of thought, we may become annoyed.  On the other hand, when someone is monopolizing the conversation, we have the option to break in and balance the situation.  When someone is paying more attention to their technology gadgets and ignoring opportunities to have face-to-face communication, interrupt.  Have good manners, follow agreed-upon rules, but don't give away your right to improve a situation or stop a wrong.
     When watching TV, we may hear the words: We interrupt this program for an important message or breaking news.  We appreciate pertinent information.  When we wish to interrupt in a conversation, we need to make sure our comments are pertinent.  Interruptions can be rude or may be necessary to maintain a good conversation.
      
      

Anticipation

  
     Carly Simon's song "Anticipation" begins: "We can never know about the days to come/ But we think about them anyway."  When we anticipate a pleasant future, we may rejoice if we are fulfilled or face disappointment if we feel shortchanged.  When we anticipate an unpleasant chain of events,  we may be right and add to our disappointments or realize we were foolish to worry.  Predicting the future is full of missteps.
     The more we make realistic predictions, the less we will face unpleasant surprises.  The more logical and perhaps less emotional we are, the more prepared we can be to face various outcomes.  Some people believe that you may subconsciously fulfill your expectations, whether positive or negative.  Your attitude and behavior may make things come to pass, a self-fulfilling prophecy.
     Anticipation may increase pleasure or worry.  Some people advise to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.  Plan well but realize that some things are out of your control.  Don't dwell too much on the days or years to come.  Appreciate today.    
            

Peripheral Vision

   
     Many popular hair styles prevent women from having a full range of vision.  One or both eyes are partially blocked and cause a loss of peripheral vision.  Many athletes must don headbands and/or pony tails in order to see.  The "beauty" of long hair takes precedence over practicality.
     Viewing only what is directly in front of you or keeping your focus on the center of your attention can limit what you need to see.  The whole picture is obscured.  Sometimes out of necessity a horse needs blinders to keep it from distractions.  Some humans put on blinders to keep them from thinking about unpleasant facts or opposing opinions.   They may think that these distractions could weaken their own resolve or (horrors!) take them off their narrow path.
     Get that hair out of your face and take off the blinders so that you can be prepared for whatever may come your way.  Don't block your peripheral vision.
 

      

Indignation

     When you perceive something as unfair, offensive, or wrong, you may get annoyed, insulted, or angry; you may become indignant.  These emotions are normal, although you may repress them or speak up or try to right a wrong.
     In Philip Roth's "Indignation," we see a father who has exaggerated fears of the dangers his son may face.  The young man is more than annoyed, becomes indignant, and moves away to attend college.  He just wants to study, have a satisfying career, and avoid being drafted into the front lines of the Korean War.  He soon realizes this college expects him to live with their religious point of view.  This restrictive atmosphere insults his own beliefs.  After attending school only a few months, he becomes part of the war.
     Whether we face personal indignities in our own family, endure prejudice from associates, or suffer in an unjust society, we often will be treated unfairly.  What situations cause you to feel indignant?  What do you do about it? 

Loss

     Sudden or gradual, with or without warning, loss can prove minor, major, or complete.  We experience our own losses and witness those of loved ones and strangers.  Something is taken away often not of our own doing or our own fault.  Even though some losses are irreplaceable, we have to find a way to go forward.
     Flood, fire, and hurricane can wipe away a lifetime of possessions and life itself.  Man-made disasters and accidents can do the same.  Health issues may force us to lose physical and mental capabilities, which may or may not be followed by recovery.
     When you begin to pose the question, "Why me?" think instead, "Why not me?"  The amount of rain that falls on us is beyond our control.  What we do afterwards is what determines our survival.
 

THE BIG PICTURE

 
     Your plot of land, your domicile, your life span from birth to death, your immediate family, compare all this to the immense universe, planet Earth, home to all of nature, in endless time back into history and forward into the future, people both living, dead and yet to be born.  How often do you think about the big picture?
     Your place in time and space may monopolize your thoughts which is natural but can be short-sighted.  Any one person's perspective can be very narrow, limited to their own needs, wants, and opinions.  Out of necessity, however, we must focus on our own life, but we need to take the time to see the big picture.
     Sometimes in order to understand the big, we must look at the very small, the microscopic world we can only see with magnification.  In addition, technology helps us see out into the immense universe.  We also need to widen our perspective to understand the people of the world, those that agree with us and those who don't.
     Many people believe the biggest picture must include God, the creator and provider.  Others believe that this idea has been created by human beings.  We all need a way to be sure we don't cause harm to our planet or it's inhabitants.
     As we identify our place in the world, we can value our life and help improve the lives of others.  Scientists can show us how to discover and invent.  Scholars can add to our knowledge.  Leaders can help us organize to increase our effectiveness.  We all need to expand beyond our own existence and become a part of the big picture.

Streetcar

     Our desires transport us throughout our lives until we reach the cemetery.  These instincts propel all of nature along a life cycle through many seasons.  We yearn for happiness with someone to share our journey.
     In order to satisfy the need for a personal loving attachment, women try to attract the male while men try to overpower the female or so it seems in "A Streetcar Named Desire."   These sexual desires, these animal instincts fuel emotions and create behavior.  Blanche DuBois believed she was "just obeying the laws of nature" which say "the lady must entertain the gentlemen - or no dice."
     When desires aren't satisfied, the view of life may turn blue, the vibrant sun may be hidden by dark disappointment and depression.  Blanche advised her sister Stella: "Pull yourself together and face facts."  Blanche, however, was not able to do this for herself.
     Clinging to youthful expectations, insisting on an idealized version of life, and refusing to revise goals cause individuals to stunt their maturity and impede their survival.  Blanche and Stella grew up in very different circumstances from the men and women in Stella's working-class neighborhood.  Blanche claimed she was "very adaptable to circumstances" especially to men, but her downfall was that she didn't adapt successfully.
     Nature's life cycle has seasons of youth, reproduction, withering, and death.  Blanche commented that in the spring it was touching to notice young people "making their first discovery of love."  She felt that she now no longer had the necessary appearance of youth.  In the summer, Stella had her baby.  After the birth, she continued family life while Blanche was manipulated into institutional care.  Her youthful expectations, her tragic losses, and her inability to adapt caused a lonely ending to her journey.      
    

Pie

  
      Everyone wants a piece of the pie, a share of the good things in life.  Some people seem satisfied with a small slice; some are concerned when others don't get their fair share; some want to consume as much as they can get.
     A fruit dessert or a complete meal surrounded by pastry, pie satisfies our hunger.  It may remind us of days gone by or inspire us to try something new.   Sweet or savory, from scratch or already prepared, traditional or not, this food is one of the good things in life.
     Just be sure you don't pin your hopes on a pie in the sky, an impossible dream full of false promises.  Create your own recipe and share the good things in life.
 

Curiosity

  
     Some claim curiosity kills the cat, but perhaps it actually helps to understand surroundings, broaden territory, procure food, and increase survival.  Curiosity helps everyone learn, go beyond artificial limits of tradition, and understand the world, nature, and other people.
     Curiosity also guides us toward better communication.  When we have a genuine curiosity about each other, we can share our joys and sorrows, help create solutions to problems, and feel a real connection to each other.   We discover our commonalities and differences.  We  make a friend.
     We also need to be curious about ourselves, why we think and behave the way we do, why we limit ourselves and wish to limit others.  Sometimes learning is forced upon us at school and on the job.  Other times, our curiosity can lead us to discovery and understanding.
 

Radicalized

 
      At the present time, this term describes someone who has been swayed or converted to an extreme section of a philosophy or religion, usually Islam, even though mainstream Muslims would disagree with these radical beliefs.  A  radicalized person may have been led to extreme beliefs through personal contact at home or abroad or through the internet.  They may participate in acts of violence, murder, and suicide.
     What we consider as radical can vary, but we usually don't recognize this type of thinking within our own belief systems.  Most of us consider our beliefs as reasonable and fairly ordinary.  When we place ourselves on either extreme of a controversial issue, our ideas may seem radical to many people, especially to the opposing view.  Liberal or conservative, Democrat or Republican, very religious or agnostic, your opposite may consider you radical.  The more you try to persuade others to your "extreme" views by using emotional appeals with promises of rewards, the more radical you appear.  You may feel you need to radicalize others in order to change their minds, get their votes, or save their souls.
     Better to try to understand others.  Encourage them to try to understand all points of view and to aim for compromise when necessary.  Instead of swaying others with emotion to convert them to your point of view, encourage them to use rational thinking and logic.  Being radicalized reduces the ability to think clearly and act wisely.
            

Too Quick To Judge

     Sometimes out of necessity, we have to make snap judgments for self preservation or self defense.  There may not be time to carefully consider how to react.  Other times, we may be too quick to judge; we may allow past experiences and prejudices to automatically form a first impression.  Emotional reactions of fear and anger can block logic.  We may not wait for evidence to give us the complete picture.
     At times, we can be blinded by our narrow perspective.  We more readily add to our preconceived opinions and side with people like us who agree with us. We can have negative feelings towards an individual or dislike a stereotype of a group of people. When cultures collide, we naturally favor our own.  The differences between us and them can become exaggerated.  We need to be wary of individuals who promote dislike of others in order to further their own ideas and ambitions.
     Seeing others as enemies can lead to cruel words and violent actions.  When we fear for our safety or feel powerless, we often seek help from others.  We may band together in neighborhoods, in political parties, and within our nation to preserve our lives.  We count on our police force, our military, our politicians, and our judicial system to make good decisions.  Although most members of these groups have good intentions, some do make mistakes, costly mistakes.  We need to carefully investigate the evidence and not make hasty judgments.  Don't be too quick to judge.
           

Algorithms

  
     Some words originally used in a narrow specific context often expand into everyday vocabulary.  In the past, the term algorithm was connected to the world of higher mathematics.  As math instruction and computer science has advanced, most young students become familiar with the term and concept of algorithm.  We now hear this term used frequently to refer to any step-by-step method for solving problems, creating processes, or accomplishing goals.
    I never studied advanced math and grew up before computers were household items.  I lack any technical knowledge of algorithms but have a fascination of how language develops.  We all can benefit, however, by forming a set of steps to solve problems and complete goals: algorithms.
     First analyze the problem or goal.  Think of ways to improve the situation, then implement and experiment with some of your possible solutions.  Design a set of logical steps.  As you work your way through your steps, analyze what works and what doesn't.  Continue to do what works; redesign what doesn't.
 

        

Shadows

      When something is between a light source and a surface, a shadow is produced.  If we think of light as being the truth, something may block our understanding and cause a shadow on our thinking.  Many obstacles block us from the light: ignorance, prejudice, and faulty reasoning, just to name three.  When we increase our knowledge, broaden our perspective, and truly use our heads, a greater amount of light will shine on our lives.
      People may intentionally or unintentionally block us from the truth. Their own ignorance or their desire to manipulate may cast a shadow on our judgement.  We may be the one casting a shadow on others.  Overconfidence in our own opinions and perpetuation of our faulty beliefs onto our children and acquaintances may cause generations to be blocked from reality.
     We may not want to be aware of the truth because it can be anywhere from uncomfortable to brutal.  The bright glare of the light may cause us to escape to the shade and shadows.  We may prefer living in unrealistic hopes and dreams.
      Temporary relief like the darkness of night may be necessary so we can deal with the daylight, but try to seek the truth even if it means coming out of the shadows.

Prayer

  
     Prayer calms and comforts, reduces stress and anger, improves self-control, directs focus, promotes forgiveness, gives a sense that someone is in control, and provides hope for solving problems.  When a group prays together, a sense of unity is promoted.  Prayer also gives a sense of accomplishment, doing something to help.
     Some believe prayer is a direct communication to a higher power who provides guidance, help, and miracles.  Some believe meditation can provide similar benefits of prayer without the religious connotations.
     Find quiet time to communicate with yourself.  Realize your own needs and be sensitive to the needs of others.  Keep your mind open to help from various sources.
 

What's in a name?

     If you are a man, your last name is your father's father's father's name and so on.   Your son(s) and his son(s), your grandson(s), will carry on that name.  Some fathers even give their sons their entire name with a Jr. added.  If you are a woman, you give up your (maiden) name the day you marry and take your husband's name which has no blood ties to yourself.
     The public often assumes a married woman has the same ethnicity as her husband.  Her accomplishments will be attributed to her husband's family.  Her children will assume the identity and ethnicity of their father and their accomplishments will go to that name.  Her son(s) will keep their father's name all their lives.  Her daughters will give up their (maiden) name and take their husband's name.  A woman's grandchildren and their accomplishments will never be attributed to their grandmother's family.  And so it goes down through history and into the future.
     This is a reflection of patriarchy.  The male name, identity, and power goes on.  In the past, the oldest son often inherited the wealth of the father.  Now, we usually try to treat sons and daughters equally with inheritances, but only the male keeps his name.
    Some couples use a hyphenated last name or give their children the mother's maiden name as their middle name, but this is only a temporary fix and gets complicated.  There is no law against a husband taking his wife's last name, but doing so is rare.  Most couples will continue in the traditional path.  They should be aware of what the woman is giving up.
     Perhaps the most realistic "solution" is to make your children aware of both sides of the family tree.  Their last name reflects only one of many, many family names.  They should take pride in being part of many families, many identities, and  many ethnicities.
     What's in a name especially a last name?  It represents only one of many names that go to make up you.
 
          

Prescribe or Describe

     Experts look at language from two points of view.  Some prescribe, define what is correct and wish to regulate others to follow the rules; others describe, record the actual usage without judgment of right and wrong.  These two points of view might also apply to how some people set rules of behavior and expect others to comply, while other people accept that behavior is varied and social mores change.
     Traditionalists feel that certain rules of behavior will always prescribe what is right and what is wrong.  These rules usually come from their group: their family, culture, or religion.  Non-traditionalists are more likely to accept a variety of behaviors, are less judgmental, and respect the rights of each person to decide how to behave.
      The objectives in language and behavior are communication and understanding.  We may prefer a certain standard especially in formal written language and in public behavior.  Expecting others to adapt to our own personal standard does not allow freedom of expression that we all hold dear in a democracy.  We need to reduce our tendency to be unyielding and judgmental, setting a standard and prescribing others to follow.  We need to see the world as it is and respect variation and diversity.
        

FOMO

   
    Fear of missing out is an anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere and you are not included, often revealed on social media.  This fear may also be felt when thinking that others have something of value that you desire even to the point of jealousy.
     Think of the events that you do not want to miss in life like attending your child's graduation or marriage or experiencing the joys of grand-parenthood.  Perhaps celebrating a particular birthday or anniversary is a goal.  A variety of circumstances may allow others to enjoy these experiences while you may not be able to.
     Many believers continue to be active in religion because they have a fear of missing out on heaven and other miracles.  The desire to have an afterlife and rejoin deceased relatives and friends is something they look forward to.  No one wants to miss out on the possibility of miracles.
     FOMO can be relieved when you are content with what you have and when you don't compare yourself with others.  Don't assume others have a better life or more fun than you do.  You may be surprised that many people see your life as better than theirs.  Take a big break from social media and get on with your own fun. 
   
       

Stop yourself

    
     What do you stop yourself from doing and why?  Obviously, we should stop harmful actions toward others and ourselves unless we are defending self, citizens, and country.  Harming nature, the environment, and animals should also be avoided.  In addition, we don't want to inflict psychological  harm. We stop ourselves from these behaviors because we are civilized and caring people.
     We may realize how we should stop harming ourselves physically through poor diet, lack of exercise and other bad habits, but we may not realize how we are stopping ourselves by commission or omission from developing into a more complete human being.  We may actually stunt our intellectual and emotional development.
     Using sabotage in wartime is a way to interfere with our enemy's goals, but we can also sabotage ourselves throughout our lives.  We either don't set the goal or place obstacles in the way of achievement.  Limiting our thinking can limit our imagination of what is possible.  Perhaps we were taught these limits as children that keep us from doing what our parents considered wrong.  Perhaps our self-confidence was not nurtured or the value of practicality was overemphasized.  We may have developed fears or wish to remain in a comfort zone.  Or, we may just procrastinate and get lazy.
     Only come to a complete stop when necessary.  Being cautious to avoid danger is necessary, but look forward to continue your journey.  Give yourself the green light and go.

    
          
     

Non Sequitur

     Wiley Miller's cartoon is named Non Sequitur which means "not to follow" in Latin.  In other words, an idea that does not logically follow from the previous idea. This often creates a comic effect.
      "The Inherent Difficulty of Science" depicts leaders of  three major religions holding their sacred scriptures and a scientist formulating his idea.  We may infer that basic religious beliefs make it difficult to accept certain scientific facts or that scientific beliefs make it difficult to accept certain religious claims.  Religion professes that God created science, while science professes that man discovers facts. The fallacy is that some people have no difficulty being both religious and scientific.  Other people can become absorbed into one way of thinking and discount the other.
     Some people may believe this cartoon is biased and trying to imply that religion blocks people from accepting scientific facts.  Some may be insulted; some may just get a chuckle.
         

Thoughtful

   
     When someone is thoughtful, we believe they show consideration for the needs and feelings of others.  A thoughtful person is caring, kind, and helpful.
     We should also be thoughtful towards ourselves, being conscious of our own needs and making sure those needs are met.  We should be kind to ourselves and let others know how we want to be treated.
     Thoughtful can also be a state of mind, being reflective of the past, mindful of the present, and contemplative of the future.  The opposite of being thoughtful might include: continuing traditions that don't serve a good purpose, behaving as others have decided we should, reacting emotionally on impulse, not using rational reasoning, wasting too much time on trivial pursuits, not setting aside some quiet time to be peaceful and meditative, and being on auto-pilot doing the same old same old.
     We may realize the obvious reasons why we do things, but we need to find the deeper meaning behind our actions.  Deeper thinking may allow us to change and improve.  Think about others, of course, but also think about your life now and in the future.  Keep your mind thoughtful.

Why not now?

  
      Other people need me to do other things.  Their needs are more urgent than mine.  They are not able to do it themselves. These obligations come first. 
     I'm not ready yet.  I don't feel like doing it right now.  I'll be more prepared and able to handle it later.  I still have time.
     It's too late.  I should have done it before.  The opportunity has passed me by.  It's a lost cause.
     Now is the hour.  Reset your priorities and restructure your daily activities.  Set deadlines and avoid distractions.  Train family members to be more independent.  Let someone else do the other stuff.
     The older we get, the more we realize that time flies away unless we use it wisely and that time does run out.  At any age, we shouldn't procrastinate.
    

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     Innumerable thoughts pass through our minds.  Some dwell subconsciously; others are consciously welcomed or rejected.  Some thoughts remain; some disappear.
     We are bombarded with current events, both important information and frivolous trivia.  The news media chooses what to air and to print.  The more shocking, titillating, controversial, and amusing, the more repetition.  We need to be aware of what is entering our thoughts and how we can control or stop the effects.  Just because many people are talking about a topic doesn't mean we have to continue the chatter in our conversations.
     Much of our thinking is consumed with the necessities of  getting through the day.  Some trending topics may be useful, while some are just a waste of time.  Think of your mind as your home.  Don't answer every doorbell,  phone or text message.  Be selective about who or what to invite inside.  Clean house and get rid of the rubbish.  Leave a window open for fresh ideas.  Have room for entertainment and recreation, but also save space for quiet contemplation.  Cook up ideas on your own with ingredients from many sources.  Consume what is good for you, and throw out the garbage.
 

Turnout

     A ballet dancer learns turnout of the hips, legs, and feet in order to have more flexibility, a greater range of motion, plus faster and bigger movements.  The spine and core can remain straight and strong.  When ballet students first try these positions, they feel unnatural and awkward, but with years of practice they succeed.  Beauty results.
     Would that we could train our minds to move all 180 degrees, to become more flexible, and have a greater range of ideas.  Our minds can accomplish this and still retain a strong core.  Often, we prefer to stand still or go backward to remain in the past.  Trying to move forward and understand the wide spectrum of opinions may seem awkward.  With practice, we can succeed.  Empathy results.        

Lullaby

    
     Down through history all over the world, parents have sung songs to calm and soothe their babies, to reduce their stress and help them sleep.  These simple, repetitive rhythms and words mimic the movement experienced in the womb before birth.  Some say the song even calms the singer.  When the parent can no longer lull the child, we must grow up and learn to sing our own lullaby.
     When we feel weary and worry-laden, when we feel like crying aloud or silently,  we search for someone or something to help us through the rough spots.  We need a respite, a physical and emotional rest.  We may use another person to help soothe us.  We may form a philosophy that helps us deal with life's challenges.  Some have faith in spiritual help.  As adults, we need to learn to cope, to broaden our perspective, to see the whole picture of our experiences, and learn to handle happiness, sadness, and everything in between.
     Often, we have the opportunity to help others bear their burdens, to get them past difficult times.  By learning to soothe ourselves, we are better equipped to soothe others.  The calm may seem temporary, but with practice, we can develop our own lullaby.
   

Fight Song

    
     Always ready (Coast Guard) to fight for right and freedom (Marines), anchors aweigh (Navy) into the wild blue yonder (Air Force.)  At times, we must fight the enemy at war, on the playing field, and in our lives.  The enemy may be someone or something that endangers our security and values or something within ourselves that keeps us from winning in life.
     Preparing ourselves and our children to decide what is right then to fight and win - that is a necessity of life.  A fight, however, doesn't have to be violent but more of an all-out effort to succeed.  You may have to battle an illness or unhealthy habit or try to right an unfair situation.  An enemy is just a threat to success, something to be conquered either inside or outside ourselves.  We all need to remain free to choose how we accomplish our goals for success.
     We may have our own personal fight song to motivate us to help accomplish goals.  We may be on a team or encourage a team with a song.  A high school or college song makes us feel loyal.  At times, we may have to go into battle and need a song to stay strong. 
     March forward, set sail, and fly high.
 

Anchors

 
      Seagoing vessels occasionally use a device that connects them to the seabed to prevent drifting due to wind and current.  We occasionally need something or someone to prevent us from drifting away into danger or the unknown.
    Often, you hear people say that another person or their religion is their anchor that provides support and guidance.  Everyone may need temporary help to feel safe, to rest and recuperate. An anchor, however, may prevent us from moving forward, a risk necessary for survival, development, and  other essential activities.  Even though we may not feel totally capable to make the journey or are not secure in our independence, if we are tied to the same spot because of tradition or connection to the opinions of others, we will not experience the true adventure of life.
     Anchors Aweigh!

The Voice

  
     In many TV show competitions, contestants must impress the judges/experts and the multitude of viewers.  The contestants must have some talent, expression, and interpretation of lyrics.  The listener must hear and see something that strikes a cord, that pleases their expectations.
     Politicians are in a similar competition using their voices to get your vote.  Potential voters want someone who seems to have the talent to do the job, who expresses solutions to problems and interprets the needs of the voters.
     As you listen to various voices, hear the true meaning of the words.  How you interpret the message will help determine the future of our nation.  Realize the power of your voice and your vote.  Support the candidate of your choice.

Don't believe it

     The older I get, the more skeptical I become.  I hesitate before believing anything new; I question my past beliefs.  Some might say I have lost my faith in what I read, hear, and see.
     In order to enjoy fiction in print, theater, and movies, we have to suspend our disbelief.  We know what we are experiencing is not real but a combination of imagination and special effects.  Even non-fiction may contain unproven facts, exaggerations, and biases.  We have to consider the sources of information and their objectives.
     Ignorance and gullibility can cause people to believe things too quickly or easily.  Faith in preconceived notions can stunt critical thinking.  We can be fooled into believing many things that aren't true.  Taking the time and effort to test the validity of an idea, to examine the evidence, and apply logical thinking may keep us from being fooled.
     Who and what you trust help form your opinions.  When you lose trust in someone or something, you may be on your guard.  You want to protect yourself from living in fantasy, wishful thinking, or outright lies.  If it doesn't seem true, don't believe it.
     

Parenting

   
     You can be a parent without giving birth, without adopting or fostering, without replacing or sharing the responsibilities of a family member.  In the broad sense of the word, you are a parent when you take care of yourself and others.
     Most everyone is grateful for having loving parents who brought you up right.  They provided what you needed before you could provide for yourself and became important role models.  They will love and give you what they can until they die.  When we become parents, we learn what it really takes to bring up a child.
     Everyone needs a parent to protect, provide, love, teach, forgive, and encourage us.  At times, we must parent ourselves.  We should also parent other people.  This doesn't mean we are older and wiser but that they could benefit from our attention and help.
     Some say God is the Perfect Parent.  Others say that when we don't feel capable enough to provide all our own needs, we fashion a god who does.
      Being a parent is being an adult.  Human beings need each other to survive.  No matter how independent we become, we seek guidance and comfort in our relationships with each other.  Parenting is taking care of yourself and others.

I've heard all the arguments...

 
     You may believe you have heard all the opinions on a particular topic and have made up your mind.  These opinions may be classified anywhere between true and false, logical and illogical, based on fact or fallacy, on emotion or reason, on myth or proven history.  At times, we have to make up our mind, make decisions, and get on with life.
     If we completely close our mind, however, and refuse to investigate other opinions, we may be to a disadvantage.  Our narrow perspective may make it more difficult to understand other people.  An open mind is better suited to learning, seeing a broader picture, and more clearly defining our own opinions.
     No one has really heard it all.  New arguments come up every day.  We may get to the point of exhaustion and don't want to hear one more word on the topic.  We may not recognize our own prejudices and biases.  We may fear doubting or changing our thinking.  After all, feeling strong in our own convictions helps form our identity.
     Remember that just because you have strong opinions doesn't make you right, nor should you insist on winning your arguments.  You may present your reasons but also keep listening to other ideas.

      

Creation

     Every human being has a tremendous ability to create.  From your unique self, something equally unique can be created.  Of course, procreating, reproducing, is a prime example of creation.  You and another person, or at least a vital contribution from another person, can create a new human being.  Then, the activities of  parenthood along with other factors can develop the child into an adult.
    Setting this aside, we need to think about what else we are creating.  Our skills and talents can make creations which can have positive effects on ourselves and others, or negative effects.  Some creations may be copies of what our predecessors have created, repetitions of the same behaviors and beliefs without much analysis or judgment on our part.  Real creativity occurs when we use our potential to create something unique.  The more we develop ourselves, the more we are able to create.
     Whether you are a scientist or artist, a teacher or healer, a producer of goods or services, you can give the world something new.  Use your time, energy, and talents and create. 

Limitations

     Some limitations are self-imposed or imposed on us by others.  Some limitations are beyond our control.  Power to those who can diminish or delete their limitations.  Empathy to those who must accept and compensate for what they cannot do.
     We are born with limitations.  Much of our blueprint cannot be altered.   Society imposes some limitations for the survival of the group.  Religions add  limitations by labeling some behaviors as sins of commission or omission.  Each individual needs to decide which limitations to accept.  We should develop empathy for the physical and mental limitations of others.  We should not limit the rights of others in order to satisfy our own wishes. 
     No matter how well we have taken care of ourselves, we may begin to notice that our body and mind can't do want they used to.  Others around us are also showing signs of aging.  Again, we must learn to adapt and compensate.
      A sand fence limits damage caused by wind, storms, and pedestrians so the dunes can continue to protect inland areas.  We need to deal with what nature has given us and set limits to protect ourselves from dangerous behaviors and manipulations.
          

Exposure

     For the most part, nature is friendly to us; otherwise, our species would not have survived.  Nature, however, can also be dangerous when we expose ourselves to extreme temperatures, too much sun, harmful plants, insects, and animals, plus unhealthy bacteria, viruses, and diseases.  We also polute the air, water, and  soil which exposes us to other dangers.  Consuming harmful substances can also expose our bodies to poor health. 
     Our mental state is also affected by overexposure and underexposure.  When we allow false or exaggerated ideas to flow into our mind and block out a variety of good ideas, our thinking can become stagnant and dangerous.  The extreme heat of emotion can burn out logic.  A cold heart can freeze out empathy.  Our minds can become poisoned with unhealthy ideas.  Exposure to bad behavior may tempt some people to lower their standards; whereas, exposure to good may help improve our lives. 
     Just like a camera needs correct exposure to produce a good photo, our own eyes need good light to see our world.  Our minds also need beneficial exposure to understand that world.

Just Because You Can

 
     Just because you can doesn't mean you should.  We have to consider the consequences.  Also, be aware of who made your Should List.  Many people have contributed: parents, society, government, religion, peer group, friends.  The list goes on.  Be sure you have the final say.
     Our parents and family members, perhaps from many generations back, form our earliest list of should and should nots.  This list may be based on survival, tradition, religion, and common sense.  Realize it is their list, and you have the right to form your own.
     Our society has established certain norms which have similarities and differences of other societies around the world.   As we become exposed to other groups, we can better understand ourselves and others.  Every society lives under a form of government from dictatorships to democracies.  Here in the USA, we are exposed to various candidates and are free to vote for representatives who we hope will uphold and design laws to protect our freedom.
     Religions also have their lists of shalls and shall nots.  Some lists were formed thousands of years ago but may or may not be complete or valid for today.  Many people believe their scriptures come from the highest authority and should be followed.  Here in the USA, we have the freedom to follow religion or not.
     Many forces influence our thinking.  It is difficult to go against what your family has taught you, what your society expects, what religion professes, what your peer group and friends do.  We need to realize that we can decide what we should and shouldn't do.          
       

Power

 
     With each passing year, we increase and maintain power over our own bodies and minds.  As we control our health, strength, flexibility, and endurance, our bodies become powerful.  As we control our mental and emotional health, continue our education, become exposed to a variety of opinions, and deal with challenges, our minds become more powerful.  We also learn to resist being overpowered by parents and peers.  We increase our abilities to have power over others, to define our own opinions and persuade others to see our point of view.  We should use our powers for our own good and for the benefit of others.
    Sometimes, we group together to increase our power.  Other times, we give power to others to act on our behalf with our own best interests in mind.  We give power to elected officials through our votes and support; however, some of them use their power to benefit themselves and their own parties at the expense of  doing the right thing for our country.  By refusing to cooperate and compromise, they obstruct progress. 
     Keep your body and mind powerful.  Use the best fuel, plan your route, and do what it takes to get the job done.   Be that little engine that could.
     
     

Beyond Survival

  
     Nature's focus is on survival and reproduction.  In order to accomplish this, the animal kingdom followed patterns learned from their parents.  The  species that survived were creative, inventive, and adapted to a broader world.  We need to see how following traditional patterns may stop us from developing our personal talents and interests.
     For much of the 20th century, the pattern was mostly about marriage and reproduction.  In order for the family unit to survive, father brought home the bacon and mother fried it up in a pan (plus took care of the house and children.)  Young men were advised to find a career that provided a good economic compensation to support and pay the family bills.  Many young women didn't envision a career beyond marriage and family.  If they did, they felt that career must coordinate with their many family responsibilities.  The American Dream was a picture of mom, dad, and the kids.  Survival and reproduction were the goals.
     In the 21st century, we can see the shortcomings of this pattern.  The traditional American Dream is changing.  Many families need two incomes to survive.   Young men and women are encouraged to develop their talents and interests, get an education, and begin a career before marriage or at least before having children.  People are beginning to realize that they should not sacrifice developing their own talents and interests in order to reproduce the next generation. 
     Encourage your teenagers to design their own dreams, find out what they want to do with their lives, and develop their own potential.  Of course, they need to be able to support themselves, but their career should be something they enjoy, something beyond survival.
 
        
      
    
          

MARCH

     March comes in like a lion (winter) and goes out like a lamb (spring.)   The Northern Hemisphere is beginning to get more hours of daylight and warmer temperatures.  Nature is waking up from a dormant sleep.
     This month, the Irish celebrate St. Patrick and the Italians honor St. Joseph, whose legends include banishing snakes and bringing rain.  In NOLA, we celebrate with parades and food. The Irish throw cabbages and carrots from parade floats.   The Italians also parade, but in addition make altars of baked goods with religious symbolism and give out fava beans as reminders of the crop saved from drought.
     This year, Easter is March 27, and Christians will celebrate all over the world.  Coloring and decorating eggs is a traditional activity.  Parents promise young children that the Easter Bunny will bring baskets of treats.
     The Romans named this month after Mars, the god of war and agriculture, two seemingly opposite endeavors; however, spring improved the conditions for soldiers to fight and farmers to plant.  Let's hope our world reduces the amount of fighting and increases our ability to feed the hungry.   We need to grow peace in our hearts and plant seeds in the earth.  Become less like a lion and more like a lamb.   

Pelvic Politics

     Opinions vary on who has the right to control our bodies, who should decide what is right or wrong, legal or illegal.  Birth control, abortion, and homosexuality are subjects some religions and some politicians think should not be left up to the individual.  Be very careful when anyone begins to play pelvic politics.
     What goes on in the bedroom, who we choose as a partner, how we plan our families, and what goes on between a patient and doctor should be private matters.   Religions can state their opinions on recommended behavior, but our democracy is not a religion.
   
      

Addiction

                                                                                                                                                                  

     Facing reality, relieving stress, and feeling pleasure are goals for a healthy life; however, some pleasures, some stress-relievers, feel good temporarily, but in the long run may stunt emotional and psychological maturity.  Some pleasures can become addictive, unhealthy for ourselves and for those around us.
     Physical addictions brought on by substance abuse can destroy lives.   Behavioral and emotional addictions are also destructive.  Avoiding and preventing addiction is the best goal.  Teens and adults need to develop emotional maturity and become independent and responsible for their behavior.  Find pleasure in healthy pursuits and contentment within yourself.  Reduce stress and find productive ways to cope.  Don't search for shortcuts to avoid reality.
     Get your act together; show and teach your children how to recognize and appropriately express emotions.  Appreciate reality, develop talents, create and maintain healthy relationships, have some fun, and keep optimistic.  Grow up.  Use healthy ways to satisfy your wants and needs. 

Baggage

     Pack your personal belongings for taking a trip.  Don't forget the essentials. The more stuff, the heavier the suitcase.
     Don't pack burdensome memories or long-held opinions that weigh down your journey.   Leave room for a change of mind.
     Fill your bag of tricks with talents, resources, and strategies to help meet goals.
     Eliminate baggage that impedes intellectual, emotional, and social development.
     Don't expect others to do your heavy lifting.
     When planning to travel through life, don't drag around anything that will encumber your progress or impede your adaptability.  Be sure your luggage contains only what you really need.  Be free and travel light.