Conversations between grandparents and teens can be fun and beneficial when certain guidelines are kept in mind. As we discuss the past, present, and future, each generation should be part of the talking and the listening.
Grandparents can pass on their family history and describe what life was like as they grew up. A teenager's past is more limited but they still have many stories to share. Comparisons can show the advantages and disadvantages of each time. Remember two valid viewpoints need to be honored.
Sometimes, the easier conversation is about the present to get an understanding of the activities of everyday life and the opinions of each generation. Be sure there is a balance of listening and talking. Don't have an agenda to persuade agreement on your own opinions and turn a nice talk into a lecture.
Discussing the future may be more difficult because teenagers are naturally more interested in today plus just a few days ahead. The older generation often wants to give advice about planning for the future. Be sure not to add undue worry to a teenager who may already be stressed out about surviving their next exam, developing their social life, and facing adult responsibilities while trying to fit in a little fun. Let teenagers know that you have faith in their own decision making.
The biggest mistake grandparents can make is assuming that they know better because of their longer time on earth. They want to influence their grandchildren toward making good decisions but shouldn't state opinions as facts or pass on prejudices. Respect differences of opinion. Being a good role model, living our own lives well, is the best lesson. In addition, have some fun during those family conversations.
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