Even though dependence is necessary at times, independence enables adults to develop and attain their greatest potential. We need to have confidence in our abilities to live independent lives.
Some philosophies and religions, however, encourage dependence. We are taught that we need a higher power to provide, protect, and guide us. Without this power, we would be selfish, make bad decisions, and disregard our responsibilities to others. Some believe that original sin is part of the human condition and we need to be saved and forgiven. Some think that a plan has been formed for us to follow, a sort of predestination we should fulfill. They believe that God is in control and people need to rely on Him. Dependence is part of the relationship.
Most denominations encourage church membership, attendance at worship services, scripture study, financial support, and bringing others into the fold. They think we should depend on the organization for instruction, reinforcement, and guidance. Left to our own devices, we may misinterpret the will of God or stray away from the faith.
In other aspects of our lives, we are encouraged to be independent, develop intellectually, think logically, evaluate guidance from various sources, discover and use our skills, provide for ourselves, and be responsible for our behavior. We also need to forgive ourselves and others for mistakes of commission and omission.
In many facets of life, dependence is necessary, unavoidable, and beneficial. No man is an island. Very few of us are completely self-sufficient. We all do our part and depend on each other in order to have a satisfying life; however, too much dependence may limit our potential. Whether we are religious or not, we should value our freedom and develop independence.
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