Fidelity

     Loyalty, faithfulness, and promises kept enable fidelity.  Promises or vows made to each other can begin and sustain marriage.
     When we make a promise, we usually do it wholeheartedly with the best intentions.  We may keep those vows for a lifetime.  In some cases, however, vows are broken. 
     Some promises shouldn't be made in the first place.  Other  promises are made without realizing how complicated they will be to keep.  In some instances, promises need to be evaluated, redesigned, or completely changed.  When two people vow fidelity to each other and one breaks the promise, the other may choose to negate the union.  Sometimes, the injured party shows forgiveness, and the union can mend and continue.
     Fidelity goes beyond sexual monogamy.  To be loyal to your spouse includes love, understanding, and doing what it takes to have a successful life together.  We all need to remember how we felt and what we promised on our wedding day.
     I remember over 50 years ago, when my husband and I were planning our vows.  I made it clear that I would not promise to obey my husband.  Patriarchy was outdated even then; women and men realized the benefits of partnership.  We said our vows and have been able to keep them all these years.  Make sure that any promise you make is something you truly believe in and are determined to keep.  With deepening love and continued loyalty, fidelity will be your reward.