Many church services begin with confession of sins. Church members reflect on what they have done wrong and feel a need to be forgiven. As they feel forgiveness and get a fresh start, they also should be forgiving others.
We often judge ourselves by what we have done wrong or what we should have done. We may also feel obligated to judge ourselves by what others think we should do. In addition, we may be judging others by focusing on their shortcomings and even wish to help them overcome their faults.
We all fall short of perfection, and realizing our weaker points can help us improve; however, wouldn't it be just as effective if we saw the good as much as the bad.
Here is what I wish for the new year. Be kind to yourself. Focus on the good you have done and try to continue those behaviors. Be kind to others. Be sure your family and friends know you appreciate your relationship and what good they do. Give compliments and thank-yous.
Be kind to those who are different and even disagree with you. Listen to their point of view. When you explain why you disagree, be civil and respectful. You may or may not be able to persuade them to your way of thinking. They should feel that you appreciate their part in the dialog.
We see many examples of too much positive reinforcement like continually telling a child, "Good job!" Too often, however, people aren't recognized for the many good things they do. Be kind to yourself and others and be a positive reinforcement.
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