Or the less politically correct - Shut Up! Saying this to yourself is an attempt to restrain from making remarks that may be counterproductive, misunderstood, or hurtful, but sometimes frustration and anger are hard to contain. Trying to silence someone else can also reflect your own frustration and anger.
Sometimes, we just need to release our feelings and opinions and share our thoughts, free speech and all that, but be aware of the possible consequences. Sometimes your ideas are not welcomed, are considered none of your business, and believed to be overstepping. Parents of adult children often have to hold their tongue out of respect. Friendships need to be protected, so we should take care that remarks are not insulting.
Many people don't want their opinions questioned or are only interested in opinions agreeing with their own. In the past, we were told never to discuss religion or politics in polite company, for obvious reasons. Better to just have a pleasant evening. Weigh the risks of opening up your mouth or writing down your thoughts.
When you feel like telling someone else to "keep quiet," try to understand the reasons behind their remarks. Don't stop communication, but try to present your own objections in a civilized tone, and explain your own opinions.
Quieting yourself or expecting others to be quiet may help keep the peace, but the price of silence may be too high. Decide when it is best to keep quiet.
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