Many babies and toddlers suffer separation anxiety when their mothers leave. Later on, they learn that mama is not abandoning them and will return. Mothers also feel anxiety when they have to leave their children and cannot care for them 24/7.
As children get older, go away to college, marry, and move away, they need to develop a healthy adult relationship with their parents. Parents also need to respect their children as independent adults. We need to cut the cord and untie the apron strings. Our lives no longer revolve around each other. We still are part of each others lives, but the dynamics have changed.
We may miss the way it was in the past, but we need to move forward to remain healthy. Some families still live in close proximity and share frequent time together; other families are separated and only have occasional contact. We all need to adjust and enjoy life just the way it is.
At every stage of life, we have to deal with separation. Trying to overcome the anxiety and avoid undue sadness is part of being grownup.
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