Going beyond small talk, two people can get to know each other even better through good conversation. Each person should have the desire to learn about the other person and not be self-absorbed, more interested in talking about themselves. We can find out about life stories, what happened and how they feel about the events. We can see how these events led up to their points-of-view, their unique perspective, values, and opinions. Of course, the conversation will go back and forth as we learn about each other.
Conversations can begin with good questions, and as we listen to answers, we can expand the topic by asking about the details and feelings involved, and about lessons learned. Don't be too anxious to shift the attention to yourself.
The person should feel that you want to understand their perspective. You may find you have much in common. Sometimes you will agree with their opinions; sometimes not. If you both remain respectful, the conversation will succeed. This is how friendships are formed.
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