Many comments are spontaneous and fly out of our mouth without our contemplating and imagining the consequences. This is normal. Some comments, however, would be more effective if we took at least a few moments to put them through a filter. Do our words have good intentions or are they just a way to blast out our own thoughts? As we share our opinions, do we only want to hear agreement, or do we honor the listener and welcome their reply, perhaps in opposition?
Many people overvalue their own opinions, dismiss differing opinions, and therefore become narrow-minded. They make up their mind and don't allow the possibility of altering or improving their stance. When we open our mind and broaden our thinking, we can have a better understanding of the range of views.
In a one-on-one conversation with a family member or friend, we first need to consider the purpose of our words. Are we presenting our idea as just one of many possibilities or do we assume we are right? Parents of adult children should keep in mind that we are speaking with an adult who has the right and freedom to design their own life. Of course, if they are damaging themselves physically or mentally, we do need to be persistent and plan an effective course. Whatever the topic, we should include the reasons we think the way we do.
In presenting our opinions to the public, we need to consider the same process whether in speaking or writing. We may use our own words or share opinions from other sources. As you give your opinions, please be respectful.
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