A pan of water will remain cool and calm until a source of heat causes it to warm up, simmer, and boil. Prolonged heat will cause the water to evaporate or boil over. Image that water is your emotions.
Remaining calm and contented is a state preferred by many. Others seem to have a need to live in a state of highs and lows. They seek out the sentimental and the sensational or get agitated and upset easily. Some are judgmental and resentful, even hold grudges. Others seem to bask in getting attention and affection. Their feelings are of utmost importance.
If you have been born with an "emotional" personality, if your parents have considered this trait endearing and unchangeable, or if you have been otherwise rewarded for this behavior, you may not have reached emotional maturity. Some parents encourage emotional expression while others may consider some emotions bad and encourage repression of feelings.
Whatever type of upbringing we have experienced, we may need to train ourselves to take control of expressing our emotions effectively. Keeping a cool head is more effective even when circumstances or inner conflict tempt you toward emotional reactions. Of course, we all need to let off a little steam at times, but try to turn down the heat before you boil over.
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