Crutch

     Physical problems with mobility may require an aide to be able to stand and walk.  Birth defects, disease, accidents, war injuries, and aging may require this temporary or life-time help.  Immaturity and emotional imbalance can also cause temporary instability.  Using a crutch beyond when it is needed can extend weakness.  We need to value our ability to stand alone and move forward.
     Toddlers naturally learn to stand and walk.  Adolescents learn to decrease dependence on parents.  Parents may wish to prolong their influence over their children but should encourage them to become well-rounded independent adults.
     Spouses often depend on each other to perform certain responsibilities and may inhibit their own ability to continue growing as independent adults.  Some people depend on their adult children to help with certain tasks.
     Religions often promote the idea that we should depend on a spiritual parent who provides, protects, and even plans our lives then rewards us for being good children.  Independence is not encouraged because left to our own devices, we may become too selfish, immoral, or sinful.
     Sometimes crutches are necessary to maintain mobility.  When they increase the quality of life, people adapt and are thankful to have a way to keep moving.  When a crutch is just a temporary aide, people are happy to heal and regain independent mobility.  At times, everyone needs other people to help them live a better life.  We also can be a help to others in need.  
      Recognize when you are using a crutch or being a crutch for someone else.  Every adult has the opportunity and responsibility to develop into an independent person.   We should be able to navigate a well-balanced independent life without using someone or something as a crutch.