When all your efforts have failed to change someone else, the only change you may be able to make is in your own mind and in your own behavior. Of course, we all have faith in strong convictions and persistence, but sometimes the best plan is to relax and let others be responsible for their own behavior. Even when their behavior adversely effects our own lives, nagging very seldom produces good results. Putting our own opinions on hold for awhile may actually benefit the situation.
If you are suffering over your lack of control over another person's life, you first need to stop the suffering. Your unhappiness will do very little to improve the situation and may make matters worse. Our first responsibility is toward ourselves and our own health. Next we should try to understand why we want someone to change. Maybe they need to improve their health or their relationships.
Everyone knows what it feels like to have someone think they know better than we do, insinuating that we are wrong. Powers of persuasion have to be well-timed. When our concern is considered nagging, we lose effectiveness. Changing our own outlook and perspective may be all we can do until the other person wants to change.
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