The Show

     Give them what they want.  The main event, the Super Bowl, gives us male strength, agility, and controlled violence.  Halftime is a break from all that.  Music and dance is in the spotlight.  The girls give us what we want.  We hear upbeat sounds and see feminine moves that highlight their strengths.
     What does football give us?  That is another topic.  What did the show give us?

Offense Plus Defense Plus Fans

 

     Many sports teams have two parts: the offense and the defense.  The offense takes possession of the ball and tries to move closer to the goal and score points.  When the other team has the ball, the defense tries to find their weaknesses, counter their progress, and repossess the ball.
     Communication also has two similar parts.  When we speak and write, we usually have a goal in mind and want to make a point, to present an idea, to win an "argument."   When we listen and read, we have to recognize the opposition, see their strengths and weaknesses, and protect our position.  We use offensive and defensive strategies to prove our ideas are stronger and closer to the truth.
     Teams benefit from fans who support and cheer them on as they show their offensive and defensive skills.  We hope our team is stronger and victorious over the the opposing team.  When we speak and write, we have possession of the ball and have our chance to make points.  When people listen to and read what we say, they may agree and become our fans or disagree.  A good communicator needs to speak to those who easily agree and to those who need to be persuaded to change their minds.
     As you support your favorite team, notice the offensive and defensive strategies.  As you communicate, remember to make your point to both your fans and your opposition.
     
 

Educated: A Memoir

     Tara Westover grew up in a rural Idaho family that didn't send its children to school or take them to a doctor.  Her father dominated the family with his extreme beliefs and exaggerated interpretation of the Bible.  Her mother went along with these beliefs while becoming a herbalist and a midwife. Some of Tara's siblings continued to live a similar life.  Some broke away and moved on, but Tara began a long and difficult journey to another life.
     She wrote in her journal, "It's strange how you give the people you love so much power over you."  Nevertheless, Tara began studying and learning how to think for herself.  She read about negative liberty - the freedom from external obstacles and about positive liberty - the freedom from internal constraints, "to be liberated from irrational fears and beliefs, from addictions, superstitions."  She attended many universities and earned advanced degrees. "What is s person to do, I asked, when their obligations to their family conflict with other obligations - to friends, to society, to themselves?"   She became "a changed person, a new self."  "You could call this selfhood many things." "I call it an education."
   

The Handmaid's Tale

   
      In the dystopian society of Gilead, a handmaid wrote down her tale.  The country has been damaged by air, water, and land pollution which caused many of the citizens to to be infertile.  Young fertile women were conscripted to conceive and bear children for the elite upperclass.  The handmaid attire was red, the color of blood, and white wings were on their head piece which limited their vision.
     Commander Frederick Waterford and his wife Serena Joy used Handmaid Offred to try to produce a baby. Before she resided with the Waterfords, she was a young mother named June who was caring for her daughter. That life was abruptly taken from her.  The handmaids "are containers, it's only the insides of our bodies that are important."  We are "two-legged wombs, that's all: sacred vessels."  And so the tale continues.
     Scriptural passages are used to promote the cause, to give credence to the oppressive and unjust treatment of the handmaids. Author Margaret Atwood has said that nothing went into this novel "that had not happened in real life somewhere at sometime."  This story can shed light on past and present issues, and give warning of what could possibly happen in our future.

Big Little Lies

     "Big Little Lies" include the ones people tell themselves and the ones they tell others.  Omissions and commissions, secrets kept, and falsehoods spread, all stray from the truth.   Celeste and Perry, Madeline and Ed, and single mom Jane seem to be living happy normal lives as parents of students at Perriwee Public School, "where we live and learn by the sea."
     As the women meet each other, they are the image of successful moms, but as they get to know each other, a more honest picture is revealed.  Celeste wants to leave her husband but pretends all is well.  Madeline is trying to adjust to sharing her daughter with her first husband Nathan and his young wife.   Jane is raising her son alone keeping the identity of his father to herself.  Both adults and children are keeping secrets and living with the consequences.
      Some lies were to protect someone, some were misunderstandings, yet some were malicious gossip.  Celeste finally realizes "all the perfect little lies" she'd told herself needed to be shared, "to say the bare ugly truth, to hold nothing back."
     Their lives are not as sweet as first portrayed.  Eventually, the lies are shattered, and the healing begins.

The Forgotten Garden

     An epic story of many generations residing in England and Australia is told primarily through the eyes of Nell, her granddaughter Cassandra, and Eliza, the Authoress.  As each generation tries to uncover family secrets, they discover old scrapbooks, notebooks, and a book of illustrated Fairy Tales.  These sources contain "the joys and traumas of forgotten lives."  Many characters also share their memories of  the past.

    Author Kate Morton reveals how Authoress Eliza used "bits of her own life by turning them into fiction."  People and events were inspiration for the fairy tales which later provided answers to many family questions.  Early on, an English garden and cottage were enjoyed by some of the characters but later is walled up and becomes overgrown.  After many years, the long-forgotten garden finally reveals its secrets. 

              

     

Instructions

    Instructions can be helpful, illustrating how various parts go together to complete a project, but sometimes we wish to skip the advice and rely on our own talent and experience.  With enough experience and confidence, trial and error, and persistence, the project may be completed without someone else's guidance.
     Many forms of instructions are provided to aid us in completing projects.  Personal instructions come from parents, teachers, and experts.  We in turn may become the parent, teacher, or expert.  Written instructions come in many forms: assembly directions, how-to manuals, books on improving our lives, and religious texts.  We have the internet at our fingertips.  We can also teach ourselves from observations and practice.
     Many instructions are obviously helpful and even necessary.  As we mature, however, we can better distinguish which instructions retain their value and which are faulty, need amending, or should be deleted.
     Our life is the biggest project, as we put together the many parts.  We need to evaluate the guidance offered by other people and other sources of information.  We can create our own instructions.