Sometimes we wait for our family to volunteer or offer an invitation. We don't want to impose or ask for something they may not want to give. We often let them design our relationship. They may think they know what is best for us.
This is when you need to advocate for yourself. Try to help them understand what your life is like, what you need physically and emotionally. Our culture promotes providing for yourself, being as independent as possible. Sometimes, however, we need the connection to our loved ones. We want to be part of each others lives, to receive and give help. Our culture also sees the traditional family, mom, dad, and the kids living together as the best combination. The multigenerational family doesn't seem the ideal.
Being a self-advocate may seem selfish or self-centered, but we need to be responsible for taking care of ourselves which includes realizing what we need from others and letting them know.
Moving away from home may feel like an adventure or perhaps something you think is necessary for financial security. Your unique talents may require another place. You may move to other cities, states, or countries. But is the grass really greener on the other side of the fence?
Some imperfections in thinking and behavior can affect inner beauty. Personality quirks may become evident. Forgiveness may be necessary to sustain our loving feelings for others and ourselves.
Warts and other physical imperfections may be evident at first glance. Other imperfections may be noticed with time. Say "I love you" to those you love, and just as important, love yourself just the way you are.
